Every morning I like surfing the web and news stations to see what is happening in this big world of ours. Well this morning I came across a news article that kind of made me think What?!?! It is on the Today Shows website. It is called Dreams delayed or denied, young adults put off parenthood. Now, to many of us this topic can be controversial or hard to talk about. I am just going to put my opinion out there and you can agree or disagree.
I am a religious person, I grew up knowing that I wanted to be a mother and that it was very important to be a mother. When I first met Adam and knew we were going to get married, I wanted children. I didn’t want kids right away and I of course opted for the birth control. I didn’t want children right away because I wanted to have a year with Adam to figure out our relationship and just be together. After a week of marriage though I decided that the birth control wasn’t for me. I was sick and didn’t feel good about being on it. During our sealing(wedding ceremony), the sealer talked about the importance of having children. The words of this man weighed heavy on my mind. Adam and I decided that it was best for us to not prevent children from coming into our home. We decided to stop taking the birth control. I am happy that we did.
Years passed and I kind of figured that there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t getting pregnant. It took us two and half years to get pregnant with Tessa. The article that I mentioned above talks about the reason why young married adults today choose not to have children. The main reason is their financial situation. I think that if I would have thought about it in this way we still wouldn’t have children. My mind wasn’t set to that though. I have never thought about the challenges of money that would happen when we had children or have children. I think children are important, a right and blessing that Heavenly Father has given us. I think people get so stuck on worrying about the “Money” situation that they put things off in life and don’t realize that even after taking those birth control pills, you may not even be able to have children.
There will always be problems with the economy and our world. Money will have it ups and downs. Adam and I struggle on a daily basis with money and challenges, but it is so important to know that no matter what, we would have never changed our path. Adam and I may never be able to purchase a home, we may never have a great retirement, we may never get to go on those wonderful vacations. Yes these things matter to us, but not enough to have made changes in our choices with having our children. I am a stay at home mother and I struggle everyday thinking about how our life would change if I was working out side of our home. Then I start thinking about the benefits of staying home with our kids.
I think the title of the article is deceiving. I think the couple they highlight are denying themselves this blessing, they are the ones holding back on having children. No matter what you want in this life you have a choice, you decide how to make your life. You decide if you are going to be happy, if you are going to wait on certain things in your life. You have a choice to make the best of your situation. I look at the 3 wonderful kiddos that I have and I am so grateful for the experiences they have given me, I am grateful that we decided to not wait. I just think you never know what is going to happen in this life, this man or woman in the article may have a serious problem with getting pregnant. They may not know this until later down the road, and to have waited and used those years putting off pregnancy may prevent them from even being able to be a parent. It is such a hard thing to weigh and to think about, but I know in my heart if you choose to have children you will be blessed with the things you need.