Today and the past week my girls found a new friend. She lives right across the street, so they’ve been playing a lot! They play in the sprinkler, ride their scooters outside and play inside with all of the toys they have. The girls beg me to let them play with her everyday. I usually let them and have no problem with her coming over, and then today something happened…
The girls were playing here in the front room with a ball tossing it back and forth with one another and having fun. All of a sudden this friend grabs my middle child by the neck and around her head trying to get the ball from her and to get on the ground. Of course I stop it immediately and say, “Hey! Don’t you ever put your hand on my daughter ever!” She looked at me stunned and confused. Now I am sitting here and just thinking about what in the world just happened. A little background on this girl, she is an only child and has very nice things. She has many toys that she brings over. Her family is a different religion then our family, and she is allowed to wear different types of clothing that my children will never be able to wear.
Now, I am not saying that these are bad things. I just don’t know how to set the boundaries with this new friendship. I don’t know if I should talk to her parents and see what they think, or do I just let their friendship grow, and hope that she treats them the way I think my girls need to be treated. Also do I set boundaries at my house of what can happen here. There have been a few things that have happened. She climbs on our couch and counters. If I knew that my children ever did this I would probably croak. The couch instance happened and I said to Izzie, “What happens if you climb on our couch?” She responded, “We get a time-out.” The friend looked at me with disbelief.
So I am left here trying to decide the best course of action and if I should just keep telling her that we don’t do those things around our house, that my girls act a certain way for a reason. Any thoughts out there? Am I in this alone, or do other parents have these same issues? I just am kind of shocked that she acts the way she does. Yes, I know my girls aren’t perfect, and I know that whenever anyone comes over they act like they are never around anyone and have to tell them a million things. But I think we do a pretty good job letting our girls know what is wrong and what is right and how to act. I would love to hear your thoughts and suggestions!